SHAKLEE DYNAMIC FAMILY INTERNATIONAL TOASTMASTERS CLUB

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0:00(dramatic music)

0:15- Let me share my journey with you a little bit

0:17and how that had a profound impact in my life,

0:21just learning this one skill.

0:24That’s me in the middle, you can see,

0:26short hair and my glasses

0:28and maybe 10 pounds heavier, something like that.

0:33So how I got into learning about public speaking

0:36was when I first came to Canada,

0:39many of you know my story, couldn’t speak

0:40a word of English.

0:41So when I was going through high school,

0:42I was going to Guildford Park in Surrey at the time

0:45and I was one of the only three Chinese in my school

0:48and I was terrified,

0:50terrified of public speaking

0:52because I couldn’t speak.

0:54And I was very, very shy and I had

0:58very, very few friends,

0:59very few friends.

1:00So going through the high school days,

1:03you can imagine,

1:05let me describe it for you.

1:07I was the kid that would sit in the very back

1:10and never put up my hand

1:12and never asked any questions

1:14and most of the people don’t know my name.

1:18How many of you kind of visualize

1:19in high school you know one of those kids?

1:21They’re almost invisible,

1:22yeah, I was that invisible kid.

1:25After school I would go to my locker,

1:28grab my stuff, my backpack,

1:30and I just go home, no eye contact

1:32with anybody, ’cause I’m afraid people will

1:34talk to me, I don’t know what to say.

1:36Even how are you’s, I’d go,

1:37″Hi, I’m fine.”

1:38That’s all I said, “Hi, I’m fine.”

1:39That was it, “Hi, I’m fine,” and that was it.

1:42And they feel kind of awkward,

1:44so that’s the end of the conversation.

1:47But during that time I had an instructor,

1:51called Miss Fellons, and at the time, I think

1:54it was Communication, grade 11,

1:57that in order to pass that course

2:00I had to deliver a speech.

2:03And I said to my instructor, “Miss Fellons,

2:07″I can’t do it.

2:08″I just can’t do it.”

2:09″Oh no, you have to do it.”

2:10I said, “I cannot do it.”

2:11So when it’s my turn, I would actually skip

2:14the class and I would hide in the bathroom.

2:19When the class is over and I would come back

2:22and until Miss Fellons talked to me and said,

2:23″Dan, you can’t do this, ’cause if you don’t

2:26″do this speech, I can’t pass you.

2:28″Just do it, I don’t care how lousy of a job

2:30″you do, just do it, you passed.

2:34″That’s it, just show up,

2:37″doesn’t matter how poor a job,

2:38″I’ll let you pass.”

2:39And she was such a great instructor.

2:40″If you’re afraid I will help you out.

2:43″After school come to my room,

2:46″I’ll coach you a little bit,

2:47″I’ll show you how to do it.”

2:49And I craft a little speech, I remember,

2:51it was on what’s it like to speak

2:55as a second language, right?

2:56It was English.

2:57And I remember I had my notes,

2:58like a piece of paper.

3:00If you give me a piece of paper it would help me.

3:02Yeah.

3:03So I have my script, right?

3:05So I was like this.

3:06So I would (paper flapping).

3:08(audience laughing) This is what I was like.

3:11This is what I was like.

3:13It was uncontrollable, uncontrollable shake like that.

3:18And I no, forget eye contact,

3:19I was like this,

3:22like that throughout the whole thing

3:23and after it was done, people applaud

3:25and that was it, that was it.

3:27That’s my first experience,

3:29talk about stage fright, right?

3:31I know what that is like.

3:33But that had plant a seed in my mind,

3:35very interestingly enough, thank you.

3:37It plant a seed in my mind.

3:39’Cause through that experience I didn’t die.

3:43I thought I was gonna be dead,

3:44but I didn’t die.

3:45So I thought, okay, that’s interesting

3:48and then when I went to college

3:50and I dropped out of college, but the first year,

3:53again, some presentation, I do my thing

3:55and I get nervous as hell,

3:57still didn’t die.

3:59Then one day I just made a decision,

4:01you know what?

4:02I need to overcome this.

4:04This is holding me back.

4:06Somehow in my mind, this fear,

4:10’cause in my life I’m not afraid

4:12of too many things.

4:14I’m afraid of insects.

4:15How many are afraid of insects?

4:17I’m afraid of insects.

4:18(audience chuckling)

4:20But, yeah, I’m not afraid of snake,

4:21I’m not afraid of dark,

4:22I’m not afraid of horror movies,

4:24none of that stuff, I love that shit.

4:26But somehow public speaking,

4:28I gotta solve this.

4:30How many ever had the moments in your life

4:31where you know what, you hit an obstacle

4:33and you say, I gotta overcome this?

4:35How many had that?

4:36Yeah, so same, deep down,

4:37I said, “I gotta do this.”

4:38So I joined Toastmasters.

4:40How many have heard of Toastmasters?

4:41Yeah, joined Toastmasters,

4:43it was a club in Burnaby, in Metrotown,

4:45called Metro Speakers.

4:47So I joined a club and I was on fire.

4:50Now, to do those of you who are familiar

4:52with Toastmasters, when you join Toastmasters,

4:54you get a menu, called CTM menu.

4:57And I was doing a speech every fucking week.

5:01Every week I was doing a speech.

5:04And after about six months of that,

5:05six months, just immersion, total immersion,

5:09every week I’m doing something.

5:11Humorous speech, persuasion story,

5:13anything, icebreaker, I just keep doing it,

5:16table topic, every week I’m doing something.

5:20Sometimes I would even go to a different club,

5:21I would do two speeches per week.

5:24And after about six months of that,

5:25people started, you know who it is when you do

5:27a speech they give you a little,

5:28they give a little form for people to fill out,

5:31to give you feedback.

5:32At first, it was, yeah, you should do this,

5:34and after, great job, excellent.

5:37I’m getting all the positive feedback

5:39and I’m like, well, where’s the constructive criticism?

5:43Not much, hmmm.

5:46And people started coming up to me and saying,

5:47″Dan, you’re good at this.

5:51″You have a natural talent.”

5:53(audience laughing)

5:54Me?

5:56Natural talent?

5:57What’s so natural about that?

6:00Nothing natural about that.

6:02But people started, “Yeah, you’re good at this.”

6:04And then one day, I don’t know what got into me,

6:09and I was watching all the great speakers at that time,

6:12Tony Robbins, and the Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy,

6:16all these motivational speakers,

6:18personal development speakers,

6:18listening to their cassette tapes, right?

6:23VHS, excuse me, VHS tapes, cassette tapes,

6:26not YouTube, and I was like, wow.

6:30And I see them, what if someday I could be up there?

6:34If I could do what they do,

6:35wouldn’t that’d be neat?

6:37And I told my mom,

6:37″Mom, I’m gonna be a public speaker.”

6:43My mom was like, I remember, in her kitchen

6:46washing the dishes.

6:48″Yeah, mom, I’m gonna be a public speaker.”

6:50″Do your homework.”

6:51(audience laughing)

6:53You know, not very supportive.

6:56″No, mom, I’m gonna be like those guys.

6:58″Speak to hundreds of people.”

7:02″Do your homework.”

7:03(laughing)

7:05You know, that’s my mom.

7:07But I just had that dream,

7:08I just had that dream.

7:10So I joined Toastmasters

7:11and then after a year, they voted me to

7:14run the club, to be the president of the club.

7:16At the time, I believe I was the youngest president

7:21for a Toastmasters club in British Columbia.

7:26And at that time we are the most successful club

7:28in British Columbia.

7:30We charged more than anybody else,

7:32we’re more members than anybody else,

7:34we won more awards than anybody else.

7:36Look at me, all the ribbons and everything,

7:37I mean, the back there are also ribbons.

7:39We produced more good speakers than anybody else.

7:42What’s very interesting, through this same period

7:44of time, all the people, I wasn’t the only one

7:47that had this dream to be a professional speaker,

7:50to impact lives.

7:52But guess how many of them actually became

7:55a professional speaker?

7:58Except me, I’m the only one

8:00other than me, it’s none.

8:02Out of the hundreds and hundreds of people.

8:04So what’s the difference?

8:06What’s the difference?

8:09What’s the difference that makes the difference?

8:12Would you like to know why?

8:13- [Audience] Yes.

8:14- I’ll share those skills with you.

8:16So anyway, that was me back then.

8:20How many can sense, even from the body language,

8:22I did not have a lot of confidence?

8:24You can see from the facial expression.

8:27That was me back then, this is me today.

8:30A lot of hard work.

8:35A lot of hard work.

8:38And then there was me doing my little speech

8:40in a local community center, or something like that.

8:43You can see my music stand.

8:46’Cause I would have a music stand in front of me

8:48and I would have my notes, right?

8:50Have my notes and everything would be

8:51typed out word for word,

8:53and I would look at it, I would deliver,

8:55I would look at it, I would deliver.

8:57But again, I’ve evolved.

9:00Do you see notes in front of me?

9:02No.

9:03This is my notes, this is it.

9:05So again, skill, you can hone your skill.

9:08From that to this,

9:10because I want to show you the before and after.

9:12’Cause you might say, “Well, easy for you to say, Dan.

9:15″You don’t know how difficult it is for me.”

9:17I know how difficult it is.

9:19I went through the same thing.

9:23Takes 10,000 hours to be a master,

9:25I definitely put in my 10,000 hours.

9:28And then you can see a little group like that.

9:30Oh, yeah, it was through a local,

9:32some kind of a cash flow club.

9:34My first seminar,

9:36you see my pimple, I think I see my pimple

9:37on my forehead. (audience laughing)

9:40Small crowd.

9:42You know, my initial, not my first,

9:43but after maybe my third or fourth seminar,

9:46Sandman Hotel, that I conducted.

9:49I don’t know, 20, 30 people, something like that.

9:52Now, I don’t know if you can tell,

9:53oversized suit, okay.

9:56I think it was with pads,

9:58I wasn’t sure, in my shoulders.

10:01How many of you can tell, look a little bit serious?

10:04Do you know why I look serious?

10:06’Cause I was nervous.

10:08I was so nervous.

10:10I was so nervous.

10:11Yeah, I was nervous.

10:14Okay, now look at me today.

10:16Subtle difference, not without the glasses.

10:19How many can sense a different presence?

10:24So what does that tell you?

10:25You can develop this.

10:27I wasn’t born with this ability, okay?

10:31You can hone this skill.

10:33Anybody can do it.

10:35I wasn’t born with this ability.

10:37So how many want me to give you that ability, yes?

10:39I’m gonna give you that ability.

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